Is Caring Worth It? by Krystal Zellmer

Have you ever had an experience where you felt burned by a relationship? Do you ever feel like you stick your neck out for people and it gets chopped off? Can you accept that people are human and are going to occasionally disappoint you?

Your choice is where you go from there. How do you truly live your life as a Compassionate Samurai? Use three of the exercises from Personal Mastery to help you overcome your last heartache. Start by looking at the situation from a responsible place versus from a victim mentality. Responsible not meaning, "I am responsible, so you are not." Responsible also does not mean, "You are responsible, so I am not." Responsible is a viewpoint for everyone to take. So coming from a place of responsible you can look at the facts of the situation at hand, and the meanings you made up around those facts. Create a new meaning that serves you in moving through this situation. Lastly, recognize if you are in the 3R's. If you are there are 3 ways of moving yourself out of the 3R's that you might remember from Personal Mastery; giving, open honest responsible communication, and a fair fight.

The pain from relationships is real. However how you choose to move through it makes you Compassionate Samurai. Sometimes I think back to before I went through this work and wonder to myself, "Wouldn't it be easier if I didn't know? I honestly feel like a victim in this situation!" One universal gift we were all given at birth is the gift of choice! That means we never have to be a victim.